3 Quick Tips on Self-Love


Long story short: many of us aren’t good at this, if we were to all say something we didn't like about ourselves, we would end up with an encyclopedia... that's guaranteed. In all honesty, it can be hard to look in the mirror and be completely at peace with the way we were made. "my nose it too big." "my legs are too short." "my hands are too small." "my hair is too frizzy." … and the list goes on. To make this short and simple I have three key tips when it comes to self-loving, and this is not in a vain way, but instead just learning to accept yourself and appreciate yourself for the way you are.

1. Don't be so hard on yourself.

"We are our own worst critics". This phrase has unfortunately stood the test of time, proving to everyone that we are always harshest on ourselves. There is a man by the name of Steven Furtick who wrote a book called "Crash the Chatterbox", and in it he tells us that on average, a person thinks 64,000 thoughts a day and of those thoughts 48,000 are naturally negative. WOW!! Why is that statistic so high?
I challenge you all to grab a hold of your thoughts, be intentional with what you tell yourself and maybe even put some steps in place to stop you from beating yourself up. E.g. stand in front of the mirror and say something good to yourself... sounds cheesy but it is really so encouraging and self-building. Do it, I dare you.

2. Surround yourself with good people.

While this may sound like a give in, you would be surprised at the amount of people that don't get this one right. Naturally we are drawn to the people that make us feel good in a moment. There is a question my mentor often asks me, "Look at your 5 closest friends, that is who you will be in 5 years, how does that make you feel?". Now 3 years ago my friend circle was not the healthiest and my 'closest' friends weren't what I would call good for me and while it was hard for a season, I had to distance myself and find people that would ultimately encourage me, cheer me on and give into our relationship. A true friend will help you see the uniqueness in yourself, so take a good look at the people in your life right now and ask yourself "Are they the people I need in my life right now?" If so, then congrats... you're doing better than most. If the answer is no, then I seriously encourage you to take a bold step and start searching out those that are going to love you and grow you.

3. Treat yourself.

Definitely not in the way you may think. Unfortunately, I don't mean go a splurge on chocolate and candy... however nice it may sound. What I mean by treat yourself is to take time to figure out what refreshes you, develops you and makes you feel good. Do you draw? Do you dance? Do you sing? Do you play a sport? Whatever it is, make sure you are making time to fit that into your schedule no matter how busy you may be.
Fuel yourself with the right kind of food, it is a form of treating yourself. When you feed your body the right kind of food in a balanced way, the difference you will start to feel in the way you act, feel and think towards yourself is immense.
Finally, exercise your mind, body and soul. Get those legs pumping, get that thing that makes you feel greater than great and make sure you are stimulating the biggest muscle in your body.(heart!)
While these may feel like pretty parent-ish things to say, they are so so so true. It's up to you how you go about fitting these things into your days but I encourage you to do it somehow.

So as I said, pretty short and sweet this week but I encourage you to all take some time this week to think about each point and how you can make it relevant to yourself. We all need to love ourselves a little bit better than we already do and it often starts with sometimes small/sometimes big steps. It seems scary taking the first steps; however, if you really think about it, living in a world where self-love is non-existent is even scarier.

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